I want to offer additional insight into managing yourself in toxic or confrontational situations. Any kind of perceived threat, conflict included, activates our danger-detecting networks and our body initiates a response. We either mobilize into action, freeze/withdrawal/disassociate, or move into an approval seeking, eager-to-please mode. All of these are automatic body responses so …
Author: larisadalton
BUILDING SELF-WORTH THROUGH THE EYES OF COMPASSION
One way to build your self worth is through the eyes of compassion. Compassion exposes the essence of your humanness. First, you live in a world where you have to constantly struggle to meet your daily needs or you will die. You must find shelter, food, rest, emotional support and recreation. Most of your energy goes …
THE INNER CRITIC
Your inner critic can be more poisonous to your psychological health than almost any trauma or loss. Trauma and loss fade over time, but the critic is always with you – judging, blaming, and finding fault. The first thing you should know about your inner critic is that no matter how distorted and false the …
DO YOU HAVE A GROWTH OR FIXED MINDSET?
Have you considered your default state of mind or the state you’re most often in? Is it peace, joy, love, abundance, curiosity or frustration, lack, anger and fear? And remember, this is the mindset that you operate in when interacting with family and friends, making important decisions and impacting the world around you. To manage your …
MARCH BOOK RECOMMENDATION
One challenge I frequently see as a coach and that most of my clients are experiencing, is negative, uncontrolled mind chatter. We may be working on something but our brain is split between our task and the chatter. Furthermore, scientists found that our inner experiences, that is our thoughts, consistently dwarf our actual experiences. What …
FEBRUARY BOOK RECOMMENDATION
As we continue moving forward in 2021 (and as one coach pointed out, many are not making the mistake of writing 2020 as the date this year), I want to encourage you to look at your mindset. Clearly our experiences last year have influenced our thoughts and actions this year; however, we have the power …
JANUARY BOOK RECOMMENDATION
Happy New Year and welcome to 2021! This year I’ve decided to prioritize relationships with the people in my life: with my husband, my children, my family and my friends. So as my first January recommendation, I’m proposing a relationship building/sustaining book. The other two recommendations are beautiful stories of love, friendship, and perseverance. The …
MANY FACES OF FEAR
In his book Letting Go, David R. Hawkins talks about the many faces and the extent of fear. Constant worrying is chronic fear while paranoia is its extreme. Anxiety and phobias are somewhere in between. A milder form of fear is uneasiness, while shyness, tension, speechlessness, defensiveness, insecurity, and guiltiness are more severe. Because fear …
DECEMBER BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
The Holidays are just around the corner, and the first book I’d like to recommend is that which talks about the gift of Grace. As we approach the New Year and start creating new opportunities, skills and engage in new ventures, my other book recommendations are full of ideas and tactics that can assist with …
SPECIAL DECEMBER BOOK RECOMMENDATION
By my friend Anita Karlsone My friend and bookclub member Anita has written a beautiful December book recommendation; The Night Before Christmas by Nikolai Gogol. She recommended this book because of all the belief in magic surrounding the Christmas and the New Year holidays! She has provided a beautiful narrative in the Russian language! Самое …