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MASTER MANAGING CONFRONTATIONS

I want to offer additional insight into managing yourself in toxic or  confrontational situations.    Any kind of perceived threat, conflict included, activates our danger-detecting networks and our body initiates a response. We either mobilize into action, freeze/withdrawal/disassociate, or move into an approval seeking, eager-to-please mode.     All of these are automatic body responses so …

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Personal Development

THE INNER CRITIC

Your inner critic can be more poisonous to your psychological health than almost any trauma or loss.   Trauma and loss fade over time, but the critic is always with you – judging, blaming, and finding fault.  The first thing you should know about your inner critic is that no matter how distorted and false the …

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DO YOU HAVE A GROWTH OR FIXED MINDSET?

Have you considered your default state of mind or the state you’re most often in?   Is it peace, joy, love, abundance, curiosity or frustration, lack, anger and fear?  And remember, this is the mindset that you operate in when interacting with family and friends, making important decisions and impacting the world around you.  To manage your …

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MANY FACES OF FEAR

In his book Letting Go, David R. Hawkins talks about the many faces and the extent of fear. Constant worrying is chronic fear while paranoia is its extreme.  Anxiety and phobias are somewhere in between. A milder form of fear is uneasiness, while shyness, tension, speechlessness, defensiveness, insecurity, and guiltiness are more severe. Because fear …

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LEARNING FROM MISTAKES

According to John Maxwell’s book Failing Forward, fear of failure stops the momentum of forward progress.  The inaction that results when people are stuck in the fear cycle prevents them from moving forward in life.  The fear takes many forms and he discussed three he most commonly observed:   Paralysis – occurs when people absolutely stop …

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Morning and Night Routines

Is it a morning routine that supports a night routine or a night routine that supports a morning routine?  I guess just like the chicken and the egg…we’ll never know!  You’ve heard and read about the importance of a great morning routine and how critical it is to set up your day effectively starting in …

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