I want to offer additional insight into managing yourself in toxic or  confrontational situations.    Any kind of perceived threat, conflict included, activates our danger-detecting networks and our body initiates a response. We either mobilize into action, freeze/withdrawal/disassociate, or move into an approval seeking, eager-to-please mode.     All of these are automatic body responses so …

One way to build your self worth is through the eyes of compassion.  Compassion exposes the essence of your humanness.    First, you live in a world where you have to constantly struggle to meet your daily needs or you will die.  You must find shelter, food, rest, emotional support and recreation.  Most of your energy goes …

Your inner critic can be more poisonous to your psychological health than almost any trauma or loss.   Trauma and loss fade over time, but the critic is always with you – judging, blaming, and finding fault.  The first thing you should know about your inner critic is that no matter how distorted and false the …

Have you considered your default state of mind or the state you’re most often in?   Is it peace, joy, love, abundance, curiosity or frustration, lack, anger and fear?  And remember, this is the mindset that you operate in when interacting with family and friends, making important decisions and impacting the world around you.  To manage your …

In his book Letting Go, David R. Hawkins talks about the many faces and the extent of fear. Constant worrying is chronic fear while paranoia is its extreme.  Anxiety and phobias are somewhere in between. A milder form of fear is uneasiness, while shyness, tension, speechlessness, defensiveness, insecurity, and guiltiness are more severe. Because fear …